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Saturday, February 10, 2018

Conversation Starters

Conversation Starters

Getting to know someone is the first step to building a relationship. Of course, the process involves mutual self-disclosure and conversation. Interestingly, if you disclose much more than the other person, you might make them feel uncomfortable.

Other times we simply need to make small talk. To avoid awkward silences, to be sociable and friendly, to establish a rapport or connection… Some people are extroverts, outgoing and talkative by nature. Others, introverts, are more reserved.

So what are possible discussion subjects? The following text attempts to shed light on this important social skill. For example, below is what NYC psychologist Melissa Jeswald shares on the topic:

A way to remember conversation starters:

FORD.

It’s an acronym for:

  • Family
  • Occupation
  • Recreation
  • Dreams


The theory states that you should start by asking the person about their family. The suggestion is questionable, as many people may consider such inquiries too personal when first meeting someone. Occupation presents another problem, since it makes people think about work and stress, and people want to relax and forget their chores for at least some of the time.

Converstaion. Photo by Elena

The psychologist proposes that FORD is a simple formula that keeps the conversation about the other person. According to the social scientist, showing interest in the other person will make you likeable. However, psychology is not mathematics. Psychology is a social science, and as social sciences tend to go, arguments abound.

Of course, there are undeniable truths to the concepts outlined by Melissa Jeswald. For example, preaching any sort of lifestyle is the wrong way to go. Also, it is important to avoid statements or discussing issues that might be offensive to your conversation partner. Moreover, talking about exes and past relationships is likewise considered off the table.

She also advises that the main point to remember is to show interest in other individuals. Indeed, social psychologists have documented that persons become friends based on mutual interests, among other things. Level of intelligence and requited liking are also factors.

Lately, the education system has intensively focused on extraversion. In a way, introverts are punished because of the amount of team work popular in today’s schools, whether elementary, high school, vocational, undergraduate, graduate and so on. So, it recommendable to pick up some more social skills and perhaps venture outside one’s comfort zone and try to be a little more gregarious, at least for introverts.

Anorexia and Bulimia

When Food Is an Agony

Understanding anorexia nervosa and bulimia and overcoming them


Anorexia and bulimia… Perusing the pages of any fashion magazine, a reader is reminded that, more than ever: “thin is in.” These magazines echo the values of popular culture, speaking to women loud and clear: It is not enough to strive toward a physical ideal whose proportions defy the laws of nature and gravity. The successful modern woman is, at once, a sex symbol, a mother, and a CEO.

These expectations make many women feel inadequate. In some cases it can lead to anorexia nervosa and bulimia, two serious psychiatric disorders characterized by a preoccupation with food and an obsession with being thin. Anorexia is most prevalent in women in their early 20s, while bulimia tends to afflict a somewhat older group. As many as half of all anorexics become bulimic at some point, according to Dr. William Davis, executive director of Philadelphia’s Renfrew Center for Eating Disorders.

Because the symptoms of these sometimes fatal disorders are often easy to hide, it is important to know their characteristics and warning signs:

Anorexia nervosa: The woman who is most prone to anorexia nervosa is typically a perfectionist. She demands much of herself, whether as a student, athlete, dancer, or all of the above. Like many high achievers, the anorectic suffers from low self-esteem. By depriving herself of food, she gains some measure of self-worth.

Gradually, she loses touch with reality. As her body fat disappears, her self-perception and value system distort. In her eyes, she is perpetually fat. Motivated by this skewed body image, she uses “will-power” to restrain herself and thus derives a feeling of mastery over her life.

Anorexia and bulimia. Photo: Elena

The severe anorectic does not stop at refusing foods she craves. Eventually, she denies herself nourishment she needs. Failing to consume a minimum amount of protein, the anorectic becomes deficient in the amino acids necessary for healthy bones and simple bodily processus. In turn, she becomes increasingly listless, depressed, and energy-deficient. Many stop menstruating due to insufficient amounts of body fat, a condition that endangers fertility later in life. Some 15 to 20 percent of those who suffer from the disorder die.

Bulimia: An equally self-destructive disorder, bulimia is often coupled with other problem behaviors such as sexual promiscuity and substance abuse. Another type of bulimia is characterized by a compulsive need to exercise. Like anorectics, bulimics are tormented by unrealistic perceptions and expectations of themselves. Unlike the acetic anorectic, the bulimic binges on large quantities of food, comforted bu the knowledge that she will purge herself shortly thereafter by inducing vomiting or using laxatives.

As in anorexia, the victim attains a false sense of control over her life and respite from feelings of worthlessness and desperation by repeating this process.

Depending on the severity of the disease, a victim may binge and purge as often as 20 times a day. Rapid weight fluctuation is an important warning sign, but because many bulimics become adept at hiding their ritual, it is often hard to detect. Bulimics spend long periods of time in bathrooms and most commonly mask their actions by running water. The effects of bulimia include dehydration, hormone imbalance, swelling of internal organs, and the depletion of necessary bodily minerals and electrolytes.

Many experts attribute the increase in the two disorders to both media and marketing trends. It is hard for anyone to ignore the proliferation of the “waif” look in magazines, movies, and television. And the “fat-free” claims that assault grocery shoppers reinforce the American obsession with losing weight.

This worshipping of thinness has not always held sway in America. A society idealizes that which is most difficult attain. When food and money was scarce, as was the case during World War II, the media enshrined the plumpened housekeeper and mother. Now that times are relatively prosperous, food is abundant, and leisure time is hard to com by, the media puts on a pedestal those women who laugh in the face of excess and spend their few free minutes trimming down to skin and bones. In such times, more voluptuous ideals, such as Guess jeans model Anna Nicole Smith are the exception rather than the rule.

Others see anorexia and bulimia as the result of more insidious societal trends. According to a study in the Journal of the American Medical Association, overweight people, especially women, are discriminated against in the workplace. Not only are overweight women hired much less frequently than overweight men, but they earn considerably less pay, the studies find.

To blame sociological factors alone for anorexia and bulimia is inaccurate and futile, however. Only those predisposed to the disease will actually transfer these pressures into a disorder. A woman with a healthy self-image will not react to a photograph of an emaciated super-model with an urgent desire to lose 30 pounds.

Help for the Tormented Eater


Both anorexia and bulimia are curable. Attention has made treatment more accessible and full recovery more probable, and those who lack financial resources can get help by calling a hotline. Usually, hotlines will assess, then recommend a treatment that suits needs and resources of a victim. Treatment options range from psychiatrists to guidance counselors to eating awareness groups, which most schools provide free of charge.

  • American Dietic Association : Answers nutrition questions and refers callers to dieticians.
  • Eating Disorders Awareness & Prevention: Sponsors eating disorders awareness week and other events nationwide.
  • Eating Disorders Hotline: Sends free written information, refers callers to help in their area. Can forward calls to an eating disorders counselor.
  • National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders: Also known as ANAD, the association refers callers to help throughout the United States and in some foregin countries.
  • National Eating Disorders Organization: Refers callers to professional help near their homes. Will also send a packet of information about eating disorders for a symbolic sum.


Child’s Hyperactivity

Child’s Hyperactivity

Beyond Just Fidgety

Identifying and coping with a child’s hyperactivity


Mental health experts estimate that as many as one in 33 school-age children has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or ADHD. Early diagnosis and treatment are crucial in preventing a child from struggling both academically and socially. Here, Doctor Larry Silver, director of training in child and adolescent psychiatry at Georgetown University School of Medicine and author of Dr. Larry Silver’s Advice to Parents on Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (American Psychiatric Press), suggests what to do if you suspect your child has ADHD.

What are the signs of ADHD? – Children with ADHD have one or more of three behavioral problems. Some are fidgety or hyperactive. Some are very distractible and have short attention spans. And some are impulsive, meaning they interrupt or act before they think. These symptoms must be chronic or pervasive; that is, they must have existed throughout the child’s life. If present, these behaviors can frustrate families and most commonly cause the child to do poorly in school.

Is there a danger that normal active behavior can be misread as ADHD? – misdiagnosis of the disorder does occur. At present, about 50 percent of the children with ADHD are being diagnosed properly. However, misdiagnosis of the disorder frequently occurs with children who exhibit the symptom of distractibility. They are perceived as being unmotivated daydreamers or lazy rather than as having ADHD.

There are many causes of fidgeting, distractibility and impulsiviness, only one of which is ADHD. If these behavioral have only recently begun to manifest themselves or are related to a particular event, your child may not have ADHD. For instance, a child who becomes distractable in the fourth grade may be suffering from emotional problems caused by a divorce. Or if the child starts having trouble in math, a learning disability, which affects 10 percent of school-age children, could be the cause.

Child’s Hyperactivity. Photo: Elena

Can untreated ADHD be outgrown? – Untreated ADHD can lead to more problems. Children who don’t receive treatment fall behind in school. The constant academic failure can result in depression and anxiety. Moreover, the disorder can lead to classroom misbehavior or to getting into trouble in the community. Teachers are often the first to alert parents that their child might have ADHD. Parents must also trust their intuition if they suspect that their child has a problem. Parents should talk to teachers to validate their concerns and then consult a family physician or a mental health professional.

How should ADHD be treated? – ADHD is a neurologically based disorder, so the principal part of treatment involves medication. Correctly managed medication can minimize or eliminate these behaviors in about 85 percent of the kids. Doctors prescribe a variety of drugs, but ritalin is used 85 percent of the time.

Psychological and educational intervention is also valuable. Since ADHD often goes until third or fourth grade, a child will need counseling and extra educational accommodations. Many children need help addressing problem of self-esteem because of years of failure in school. Others have developed additional behavioral problems, such as being aggressive to get attention, or have learned that throwing tantrums helps them get their way.

Families who have had to live with a disruptive child may also need some support. Most children require extra tutoring or special education to help fill deficiencies in their knowledge. Schools are required by law to provide these extra educational services.

Schizophrenia, Schizoaffective Disorder and Schizophreniform Disorders

Schizophrenia, Schizoaffective Disorder and Schizophreniform Disorders


The purpose of the present essay is to discuss schizophrenia. Schizophrenia is a mental illness affecting persons around the world. A highly debilitating illness, but with a hopeful prognosis in certain cases, scientists have looked at the disorder from different perspectives. The neuroscience point of view has shed light on the brain differences between persons with schizophrenia and persons without. Likewise, geneticists have looked at the genetic basis for the disease, pinpointing to genes such as DISC1 on chromosome 1q42, which impacts schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder and bipolar disorder, all representing mental illnesses with psychotic features. Other genes such as neuregulin, dysbindin, COMT, RGS4, GRM3 and G72 have likewise been implicated.

Do animals get disorders such as schizophrenic illness? Image: Megan Jorgensen (Elena).

The PANSS is an instrument often used in diagnosis of the severity of symptoms in this illness. The acronym stands for Positive and Negative Syndrome Scale and contains items scoring aspects such as delusions, hallucinatory behaviour, lack of spontaneity and flow of conversation, stereotyped thinking and so on. Thus, the purpose of the present paper aimed at discussing schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder and schizophreniform disorders. However, schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder and schizophreniform disorderers are not the only mental disorder with psychotic features, others include affective psychosis and bipolar disorder.

Schizophrenia, Schizoaffective Disorder and Schizophreniform Disorders. Photo : Elena.

Schizoaffective Disorder

Schizoaffective Disorder


Much has been written on the topic of schizophrenia and depression, or MDD – Major Depressive Disorder, but less is known about schizoaffective disorder, a condition featuring elements of both a mood disorder and schizophrenia. Thus, as classified by the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual) and ICD (International Classification of Diseases), schizoaffective disorder is a mental illness that affects your moods and thoughts and combines elements of schizophrenia and mood disorders such as bipolar disorder or depression.

In depression, activities once enjoyed are no longer pleasurable. Image: Megan Jorgensen (Elena)

The disorder is relatively rare, with a lifetime prevalence of around 0.5% to 0.8%. Further, the prognosis seems better than that of schizophrenia, but the same or worse as compared to mood disorders. More common in women than in men, the disorder may feature psychosis, or hallucinations and delusions such as in schizophrenia. The likeness to bipolar disorder comes from the fact that people with schizoaffective disorder often experience manic, mixed or depressive episodes in addition to psychotic features. The changes in mood are characteristic of bipolar disorder. Doctors face additional challenges in diagnosing the disease because people with schizophrenia may experience changes in mood, while persons with bipolar depression may be prone to psychosis. Some scholars question whether the disorder should be categorized as separate at all.

Hallucinations and delusions are part of schizophrenia. Image : Megan Jorgensen (Elena)

In terms of treatment, several treatment options are available for individuals with schizoaffective disorder. For example, atypical antipsychotics, such as risperidone (brand name Risperdal), lurasidone (brand name Latuda) and quetiapine (Brand name Seroquel) may be used to treat the condition, among other medications and therapies. Ultimately, it is the psychiatrists who diagnose the patient and decides which treatment is best suited for him or her. However, patients do have a right to discuss their treatment, unless the patient is incapable of deciding for himself or herself or is a threat to self or others. Several legal forms exist depending on the jurisdiction which dictate whether a patient may be institutionalized against his or her will. Ultimately, these laws are designed not to circumvent patients’ freedoms and liberties, but to protect people from themselves as well as, to protect society.